“Loving ‘100′”

October 18th, 2006

Nothing in the world quite like tucking a 6-year old into bed, as any parent will tell you. Tonight when I carried our Elliot to bed and laid him down…

…I could see a slight smile on his face. He had been sleeping on our bed upstairs and though he is a deep sleeper, he was slightly awake as I tucked him in. So I kissed him good night, said "I love you" and then engaged in one of my favorite little games.

I said, "Who do you love most, Mommy or Daddy?" From under the covers he reached out his hand with two fingers meaning "both of you". This is his common answer and I love to hear it. Next I added other loved ones and ask him which he loves most. "What about Lawrence? Grandma Glazebrook? Grandma Huff?" He started to add fingers but he was too tired so he just said, "A hundred."

You know I smiled as I stepped away, and then I wondered about this business of "loving a hundred", Elliot’s way of saying, "Why wouldn’t I just love everyone and love them the same?" And why not?

Do you "love ‘100′"? Do I? Everyone is thirsty for this kind of love. We know it when we see it. It is a love that receives others as valuable, meaningful, cared for — seeking their benefit as one’s own. When you and I experience this love we feel enfolded in something almost other-worldly. And so it is.

Of course we know there are special loves for family members and other close relationships. But this matter of loving all as worthy of our care and concern — that is a mouthful. That is "loving ‘100′".

Lord, I know Your love when I see it but too seldom do others see it in me.
Would you help me, please?
‘We only have what we give away.’ Is that true?
I so need to ‘have’ Your love — I can’t live without it.
So, please help me to give it away.
And in the response Your touch brings in others may I see and know
that You are helping me to
"love ‘100′".

 

 

Huff Sought as National Spokesman

October 4th, 2006

The people over at the international office of Radical Innovations For Loving Everybody (RIFLE) received an outpouring, in response to my blog, of requests to name me as the honorary chair. In spite of the 6 figure salary, I turned it down. Time spent blogging precludes time spent serving the noble causes of RIFLE.

I do want to thank Michael for enduring my too direct, OCD-tinted ‘attack’ with grace and kindness. I hope we meet sometime and I hope we can continue dialogue from time to time via cyberspace.

Also, Aaron — thanks for your comment. What’s up Doug — bringing in all your friends to embarrass me? Is Aaron doing your light work, Michael? Aaron pointed out that I was not objecting to illogic. Aaron is right, and I should have known better. As best I can see it, Michael’s slogan, to which I mildly and subtly made protest, is formally logical. It follows correct logical form. Truth of an equation, on the other hand, is determined by meanings of the parts in the equation. An equation can easily be formally logical but conclude something that is easily seen as false. (This does not mean, of course that I withdraw all of my protests, but I did want to note Aaron’s correct correction.) I missused definiton in the process of attacking Micahel’s definition. Mea culpa, or something like that!

I have actually taught this principle in a brief overview I give on logical principles. This admission will self-destruct if used against me.

I was helped to react to and then see the truth of Aaron’s comments. For now, I resound in chorus with anyone who cares — "Give it a rest!"

And so I will.

Michael joins the discussion!

October 2nd, 2006

Thanks, Michael for chiming in. I’ll try to respond helpfully, and I know it gets too long.

1. My objection to the slogan is that it is illogical, sacrificing careful thought in pursuit of provoking thought. I am not putoff by your slogan b/c I disagree with what it purports to support; I dislike it b/c it does not make sense. (How’s that for direct?!)

2. Having said that, I’ll grant you that defining PEACE matters. My whole beginning point was to push the definition issue. If the slogan falls on any definition, it falls entirely.

3. If peace means, in the classical and biblical sense “cessation of warfare”, then surely you could concede that killing causes war to cease (thus producing peace). The issue is about time within TIME. I think we share a worldview that says there will never be real peace until some understanding of Christ’s return, etc. But if that is the definition of peace, we are all wasting our bandwidth [in the specific purpose of this discussion].

4. In this time — the world as it is — killing is often the only path to creating temporary peace. What is an underlying cause for the end of most wars? “Enough with the killing — we can’t take it anymore.” That is an indirect cause, but a cause nonetheless. The direct way that killing creates peace is in what I tried to argue for previously, and if that cannot seem valid (which, of course, it may not be) then I’m afraid I can add nothing more.

5. I would say again, of course killing cannot create lasting peace. But it is often necessary to stopping the peace-stopper. And if the peace-stopper is stopping peace, then the one who stops the peace-stopper restores peace. To say otherwise is, by definition, denying the posisbility of any kind of peace whatsoever. If you insist on saying that the existence of any kind of violence precudes peace in any sense, then as I say, I can add nothing.

6. You said: “You may supress it a bit, kick evil down a notch, but if you fight evil with evil….” This equating all killing with evil is just nearly impossible for me to comprehend. My dad was in law enforcement — never had to use deadly force, thankfully. If you mean that deadly force by a policeman is evil, then the definition thing is out of control and we have lost common ground.

7. If you are willing to qualify your definition to allow some killing as being non-evil, then we have some common ground (and the slogan’s veracity falls). If ALL killing is evil (not just a “necessary evil”, but actually evil as you suggest) the slogan stands and stands against law enforcement, your friend in the Navy, etc.

8. Finally, You said: “You need people like me–and I need people like you, Randy. We balance each other out. I cause people to think twice before pulling the trigger–you spur people on to protect their families. Both are good causes of equal value in the Kingdom.”
This is warm and big of you, and surely right. My only quarrel with this approach is that truth can easily be the casualty. I know Emergent types and PoMo’s are weary of the truth question. But if there is no truth and no reasonable means of knowing it, what is the point of dialogue?

Granted that none of us will see all or see clearly what we do see. Thus the point of this ‘balance’ you abley describe. But opposing viewpoints are not always equal in merit. Indeed I am surprised for you to say that about me with regard to peace. We both bring part of the truth but I’m not sure we are both of equal value — you may be far more right than I can see.

I’ll cut to the chase: If your quote is TRUE, then my viewpoint, so far from being of equal value, is WRONG. If your quote is not true, well then…. But if it is true, my opposing cause is certainly NOT of “equal value to the Kingdom.” And for the record, I’ll suggest the quote has little or no value to the Kingdom — the ends (spurring dialogue) do not justify the means (patent offense to logic/flattening of definition).

Just trying to grapple with this issue as I am able to see it. I confess what is probably obvious — it takes all I can muster to be open to your viewpoint — it just sort of mystifies me. But maybe I get points for trying and I do, of course, think one of us is right.

Killing is either essentially and always evil, or it is something else. Peace cannot have 2 or 3 different definitions in the same context. If you mean lasting, permanent peace, the discussion seems irrelevant. But you have already conceded that you do not believe we can achieve lasting peace in this time.

So how do we have temporary peace? According to Paul, somehow, somewhere a “sword” is required. As long as there is evil, it must be fought with the good. Some fighting gets messy. Some fighting requires violence. Ghandi and MLK had something about non-violence, but I ask you: Were their assassinations a good thing? Should the assassination have been stopped? In the specific act of evil known as assassinating MLK, would non-violence, i.e., refusing to harm the gunman if necessary to stop the deadly shot, have stopped it? The answer is in a grave somewhere. And I would remind you that God’s answer to evil is in the Cross ultimately, yes; but He also deals quite violently in overthrowing evil. Seems to ruin the idea of defining all violence as evil, though you may not intend that definition.

I’d like to respond to more but hope the above adds some light. I would end with this: I am a long ways from a warmonger or and am not even a typical, as you kindly put it, “spurring us to fight for our families.” I believe I, like you, perhaps, would die and even be violent as necessary to protect my family, and by extension, my homeland. That is necessary in the world that is. But I am far from trigger-happy and very seldom use a gun for any purpose. (I did not think you were suggesting this, just wanted to clarify where I actually land. This is just something I’ve wrestled with for a long time and this discussion brought some of it out into blogprint.)

Enjoy the discussion and I do humbly ask your forgiveness for the strain that may be apparent. It is a weakness that really flourishes when I get on the warpath and I do not mean to offend.

And so, in that spirit, peace!
RH